Comments on: Keeping Up With The Cohens http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/ ...redesign in progress... Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:35:12 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Gemma http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-229 Gemma Wed, 05 Nov 2008 11:30:55 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-229 It is in the back of the car!!! Mwah xx It is in the back of the car!!!

Mwah xx

]]> By: David Levy http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-227 David Levy Wed, 05 Nov 2008 11:00:21 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-227 And as I said, Mrs 'It's In The Back Of The Car': ''Whether or not your clock is ‘ticking’ at 30 is virtually impossible for me, as a man, to understand.'' That said, I do appreciate the biological side of it - though I didn't realise how bad it was, thank you for the figures - but I still maintain, and will continue to do so, that thinking that way after going out with someone 3 times is completely mental. I don't care what clock is ticking. Talk to me about marriage kids, and clocks ticking when we've been going out 10 weeks, not together for 10 hours. That said, it could be that she just didn't like me that much, and was using the baby clock as an excuse, which is absolutely fine... And as I said, Mrs ‘It’s In The Back Of The Car’: ”Whether or not your clock is ‘ticking’ at 30 is virtually impossible for me, as a man, to understand.”

That said, I do appreciate the biological side of it – though I didn’t realise how bad it was, thank you for the figures – but I still maintain, and will continue to do so, that thinking that way after going out with someone 3 times is completely mental. I don’t care what clock is ticking. Talk to me about marriage kids, and clocks ticking when we’ve been going out 10 weeks, not together for 10 hours.

That said, it could be that she just didn’t like me that much, and was using the baby clock as an excuse, which is absolutely fine…

]]> By: Gemma http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-226 Gemma Wed, 05 Nov 2008 10:45:56 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-226 I am female, 27 and jewish. I suppose I should therefore feel offended by your post. As it happens I do not because I am defined by a whole bunch of other things too (eg child of divorced parents, commitement phobe etc) so I dont think much of it applies to me. I dont necessarily agree with what Alex has done but I dont think you are appreciating the fundamental difference between men and women in terms of reproductive biology. It is referred to as a ticking clock because for us, unlike for you, there is a finite time limit. If we do want children we cant just leisurely take our time and wake up at 39 and say, ok now I am ready, now would be nice. It is not a matter of wanting to get married young or wanting to keep our parents happy or wanting to fit in with our friends but quite simply a matter of if I dont make the right decisions for me now I may not get a second chance to correct them....it may be too late. Just try to imagine for a minute having 5 years from TODAY to find the right person and have kids because any later we are told it may be impossbile (chances of falling pregnant decrease by 5% each year after 30) - and chances of miscarrying go up from 12% in your 20's to 50% in your late 30'S. It is not something I let take over my life and I wouldn't stay with someone I wasnt in love with because it is now or never but if anything that attitude just makes it more important to make sure you are dating someone that you can at least see that potential with. Like i said, I dont necessarily agree with Alex but I dont think its fair to dismiss her situation as Jewish Princess wants to get married to conform and fit in...if she ever wants to have a family and she is 30 already she needs to be clear with herself and those she is dating on what she wants... xxx I am female, 27 and jewish. I suppose I should therefore feel offended by your post. As it happens I do not because I am defined by a whole bunch of other things too (eg child of divorced parents, commitement phobe etc) so I dont think much of it applies to me.

I dont necessarily agree with what Alex has done but I dont think you are appreciating the fundamental difference between men and women in terms of reproductive biology. It is referred to as a ticking clock because for us, unlike for you, there is a finite time limit. If we do want children we cant just leisurely take our time and wake up at 39 and say, ok now I am ready, now would be nice. It is not a matter of wanting to get married young or wanting to keep our parents happy or wanting to fit in with our friends but quite simply a matter of if I dont make the right decisions for me now I may not get a second chance to correct them….it may be too late. Just try to imagine for a minute having 5 years from TODAY to find the right person and have kids because any later we are told it may be impossbile (chances of falling pregnant decrease by 5% each year after 30) – and chances of miscarrying go up from 12% in your 20’s to 50% in your late 30′S.

It is not something I let take over my life and I wouldn’t stay with someone I wasnt in love with because it is now or never but if anything that attitude just makes it more important to make sure you are dating someone that you can at least see that potential with.

Like i said, I dont necessarily agree with Alex but I dont think its fair to dismiss her situation as Jewish Princess wants to get married to conform and fit in…if she ever wants to have a family and she is 30 already she needs to be clear with herself and those she is dating on what she wants…

xxx

]]> By: Posteret http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-225 Posteret Tue, 04 Nov 2008 14:08:29 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-225 Great post! I think a huge amount of women get very focused on the marriage and children question, so much so that it becomes the first thing they think about when meeting a man. I pretty much bypassed all that by getting married absurdly young! It's hard for men to appreciate though as they don't have a time limit counting down in their heads all the time. x Great post! I think a huge amount of women get very focused on the marriage and children question, so much so that it becomes the first thing they think about when meeting a man. I pretty much bypassed all that by getting married absurdly young!
It’s hard for men to appreciate though as they don’t have a time limit counting down in their heads all the time.
x

]]> By: David Levy http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-224 David Levy Tue, 04 Nov 2008 13:59:21 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-224 Glad to know i'm such an inspiration! And did it work? Glad to know i’m such an inspiration! And did it work?

]]> By: longredcape http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-223 longredcape Tue, 04 Nov 2008 13:47:13 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-223 I did THE SAME THING yesterday, and I also took a picture of it! FREAKEH. I did THE SAME THING yesterday, and I also took a picture of it!

FREAKEH.

]]> By: David Levy http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-222 David Levy Tue, 04 Nov 2008 12:39:25 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-222 The layout has changed, yes! Thank you for stopping by - I look forward to hearing your thoughts :) The layout has changed, yes!

Thank you for stopping by – I look forward to hearing your thoughts :)

]]> By: brookem http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/2008/11/04/keeping-up-with-the-cohens/#comment-221 brookem Tue, 04 Nov 2008 12:21:04 +0000 http://backandtothefuture.wordpress.com/?p=327#comment-221 hey- you changed your layout, yes? i came over here to comment and thought it was a whole new blog that i'd never seen/been to before. i read your little blurb over there about the hoffman process and am so wickedly intrigued that i need to sit my booty down and start from the vrey beginning. ps- i love meg ryan, and it's not just because we share the same name;) hey- you changed your layout, yes?
i came over here to comment and thought it was a whole new blog that i’d never seen/been to before. i read your little blurb over there about the hoffman process and am so wickedly intrigued that i need to sit my booty down and start from the vrey beginning.
ps- i love meg ryan, and it’s not just because we share the same name;)

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